Parent Spot for Parents of Middle School Students
For many kids, pre-adolescence can be a time of upheaval. Puberty
kicks in, peer pressure becomes a significant factor, and new
relationships take on major importance as children pull farther
away from their families. With all this going on for preteens, is
it any wonder that their desire to focus on academics might wane?
Studies show that many children's grades drop during the first
year of middle school. It's at this point that they sometimes
become less interested in studying and less self-assured about
their abilities.
However, today's students are facing more rigorous academic
standards and tougher high school graduation requirements. At the
end of eighth grade, students will take four state exams in
English, math, social studies, and science to test how well they
are doing at mastering state learning standards. Some may also
take a fifth exam in a foreign language. According to David
Payton, supervisor of the middle-level education program at the
New York State Education Department, the only way students can
hope to prepare for the types of work that await them in high
school is to be diligent with their studies throughout the middle
school years.
"These tests are designed to let students know if they are on
track to earn a high school diploma," says Payton. "Learning the
information and skills that these tests reflect takes time and
effort. Students can't wait until they are in high school to begin
to master the standards."
Motivating your middle schooler
So how do you spark an interest in academics when Sponge Bob
Square Pants has become your child's guru and the lure of Internet
chat rooms looms large? Here are some ideas:
- Be a positive role model.
When talking about your own work, emphasize not only the
frustrations but also the satisfactions that go along with
reaching a goal or finishing a job. This is a great way to show
your children that achievement has its rewards.
- Give your children lots of support.
Although the middle years are a time when children crave more
independence, they still need your understanding and clear
expectations from you. Your positive, patient support can be one
of the best motivators there is.
- Praise your children realistically.
Use words
like "bright," "creative," "imaginative," "kind" and
"hard-working," as opposed to "brilliant," "genius," "smartest"
and "perfect." And let them know that struggling with a task is
not a bad thing.
- Stay involved in your children's
learning.
This includes asking questions of your
children and their teachers, participating in school activities,
and checking on homework, test grades, etc.
- Tap into your children's interests.
For example, subscribing to a preteen or sports magazine can
promote reading; using the Internet along with your children to
locate information on their favorite musical groups can promote
good research skills.
Skills for school success
- Make sure your children have assignment notebooks. Talk with
them about how to use them and why.
- Suggest they open the notebook at the beginning of each
class and leave it on their desk until they have written down
the daily homework assignment. Encourage them to review their
assignments before leaving school to make sure they bring home
the appropriate books and materials.
- Have your children use folders or binders to organize
paperwork for each subject.
- Help your children decide on a regular location to do
homework. Some kids need a quiet space away from all
distractions. Others do fine with a little background noise or
in the company of others. By settling on an acceptable location
in advance, you'll minimize daily fights over who sits where and
whether or not it's okay to have the television on.
- Have your children keep all of the supplies they will need
to complete assignments in one location, and make it their
responsibility to let you know if they are running low.
- Involve your children in developing a study routine.
Together, agree upon a set time for them to do assignments.
- Consider a weekly family planning meeting on Sundays to help
everyone "regroup" and get organized for the coming week.
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